{"id":1336,"date":"2013-05-10T13:22:46","date_gmt":"2013-05-10T13:22:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/?p=1336"},"modified":"2026-06-24T05:49:25","modified_gmt":"2026-06-24T05:49:25","slug":"its-taboo-to-admit-that-youre-lonely-you-can","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/?p=1336","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"
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It\u2019s taboo to admit that you\u2019re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven\u2019t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you\u2019re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are.<\/p>\n

A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn\u2019t transition well to adult life, that you\u2019d fall right through the cracks. And look at you now. La di da, it\u2019s happening.<\/p>\n

Your mother, your father, your grandparents: they all look at you like you\u2019re some prized jewel and they tell you over and over again just how lucky you are to be young and have your whole life ahead of you. \u201cGetting old ain\u2019t for sissies,\u201d your father tells you wearily.<\/p>\n

You wish they\u2019d stop saying these things to you because all it does is fill you with guilt and panic. All it does is remind you of how much you\u2019re not taking advantage of your youth.<\/p>\n

You want to kiss all kinds of different people, you want to wake up in a stranger\u2019s bed maybe once or twice just to see if it feels good to feel nothing, you want to have a group of friends that feels like a tribe, a bonafide family. You want to go from one place to the next constantly and have your weekends feel like one long epic day. You want to dance to stupid music in your stupid room and have a nice job that doesn\u2019t get in the way of living your life too much. You want to be less scared, less anxious, and more willing. Because if you\u2019re closed off now, you can only imagine what you\u2019ll be like later.<\/p>\n

Every day you vow to change some aspect of your life and every day you fail. At this point, you\u2019re starting to question your own power as a human being. As of right now, your fears have you beat. They\u2019re the ones that are holding your twenties hostage.<\/p>\n

Stop thinking that everyone is having more sex than you, that everyone has more friends than you, that everyone out is having more fun than you. Not because it\u2019s not true (it might be!) but because that kind of thinking leaves you frozen. You\u2019ve already spent enough time feeling like you\u2019re stuck, like you\u2019re watching your life fall through you like a fast dissolve and you\u2019re unable to hold on to anything.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know if you ever get better. I don\u2019t know if a person can just wake up one day and decide to be an active participant in their life. I\u2019d like to think so. I\u2019d like to think that people get better each and every day but that\u2019s not really true. People get worse and it\u2019s their stories that end up getting forgotten because we can\u2019t stand an unhappy ending. The sick have to get better. Our normalcy depends upon it.<\/p>\n

You have to value yourself. You have to want great things for your life. This sort of shit doesn\u2019t happen overnight but it can and will happen if you want it.<\/p>\n

Do you want it bad enough? Does the fear of being filled with regret in your thirties trump your fear of living today?<\/p>\n

We shall see.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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You\u2019re Not Making The Most Of Your 20s by Ryan O\u2019Connell<\/a>\u00a0 (via brittsandbobs<\/a>)<\/p>\n

–<\/p>\n

I’ve reached the next stage of this. I’m in my thirties and I’ve felt like my life has been trumped by fear and doubt for a very long time (and I don’t know what to do now.)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s taboo to admit that you\u2019re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven\u2019t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[358,357,356],"class_list":["post-1336","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-doubt","tag-fear","tag-trumped","post_format-post-format-quote"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1336","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1336"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1336\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2386,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1336\/revisions\/2386"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1336"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1336"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.grunk.xyz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1336"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}